Getting over a relationship is never easy. No matter how gruesome the break-up was or how toxic the relationship was, moving on from it literally wreaks havoc on one’s emotional health. And while the digital media showcases the consumption of alcohol, wild parties, and random hookups being enough to get over a breakup, the reality sadly isn’t that easy.
Moving over somebody whom you loved with all your heart is a painful procedure that requires a lot of self-motivation and support, and never pity. In today’s article, we share with you a few full-proof ways you can move on from a breakup without losing yourself in the process –
1. Give Yourself Time – You Can Never Forget Anyone In A Matter Of A Week
If you have had a breakup recently, do not be harsh on yourself.
Give yourself some time to recuperate from it.
Giving in to alcohol and random one-night stays will never help you get over the person. In fact, once you get over him/her, you will regret these actions.
2. Learn To Focus On The Positive Aspect Of The Breakup
I know, if you’re going through a breakup right now, you will find this subtitle crazy, but remember that there is a silver lining to every cloud.
Take a note of the negativities you had to face in your relationship, the things that did not work for you, and the very reason you guys called it quits.
These negatives will inevitably bring you across the positive aspect of the breakup, which will ultimately help you move over it.
3. Invest Time In A Long-Forgotten Hobby Or Inculcate A New One
After a breakup, all you would want to do is divert your attention from your ex. And the best way to go about it is to inculcate a hobby.
You can learn a new language or take music or painting lessons or even volunteer for some NGO– the idea is to do something productive and serious that will not allow you any loose time to think about your past life.
In doing so, you will not only get over your ex but will also gain expertise in areas that you never thought were possible!
4. Socialize With Friends And Family Who Cheer You Up
Talking always helps to cope with catastrophic situations. So, locking yourself up and refusing to talk to anyone isn’t going to take you anywhere, sweetheart.
Try to open yourself to people whom you love and whose demeanor exudes love and positivity.
Don’t worry; talking about the breakup will not put you in a victim mode.
Rather, sometimes others’ experiences and the way they dealt with such situations may boost your confidence and help you visualize your current situation from a renewed perspective.
5. Delete Your Ex From Social Media
Just like we stalk our crush, we often develop a tendency to stalk our ex on social media. From whether the person is dating yet again or if s/he is repenting your loss – there are umpteen possibilities that we end up thinking about when visiting their social media profiles and inevitably break our hearts yet again.
Please girls; breakup itself is extremely hard to tackle so let not this added burden of social media bow you further.
In fact, our advice would be to take some time off from social media after a breakup in order for your mental health to be okay.
6. Take Professional Help If Necessary
Last but not the least, if you feel that even after trying hard you’re unable to get over your past relationship, please take professional help.
Rather than seeking advice from your friends or colleagues, it is always better to seek sound advice from an expert – like a therapist or a psychologist.
A professional will be able to understand your plight better than anyone else and provide you with unparalleled advice that will help you bounce back to the world with a renewed zeal and spirit.
All said and done, always remember to love yourself amidst all adversities. Breakup is not a reason to hate or hurt yourself, but it is reason enough to love yourself more. It is this love that will help you heal the scars and jump back to life sooner than later.